It occured to me reading your post that you are more worried about being a devoted BF/DW......then you probably realise when he zooms in for a smooch that it hadn't occurred to you to think about what YOU want from a BF/DH. What's he doing with you anyway? What is so good about you? yadda yadda


Because you have forgotten to include yourself in you future plans you have the whole process arse about.

1) You have to believe in yourself a bit more. Has it occured to you that you might want more than a "nice guy"? Do you have criteria past that? I bet you do but you haven't got that far yet so that's why you are unsure. Maybe he is nice but not ringing any bells for you? What's so bad about that? He might not be right for you and that's ok. Why do you assume it's something wrong with you?

2) It seems for the first part you are confident in what you can give - what about what you want in return? Start listing that and believing that you deserve it (why wouldn't you?) and you will be more confident when someone doesn't hit the mark....and you know it isn't you.
If there is something you don't trust - trust your feelings! Wait it out a bit longer, don't assume you suck.

and in the future, when you truly believe in yourself (by repeatedly telling yourself why you are so awesome) and your milkshakes bring all the boys to the yard, you will be more confident about what you want them to bring.

feel me?