Hi Deb, thanks for your reply. What was the book you read? I'd like to do some more reading. Had a really good chat with my husband the other night and I'm feeling much more resolute about it all. We still haven't made a decision about IVF (will cross that bridge when we come to it), but at least he knows how I feel now, it was so good to get it all off my chest!

Thanks everyone for your support!!

Ros