Kaydee - i'm another who feels the same way. Didn't have the most ideal upbringing and used to be very resentful - especially at my cheating, neglectful father. Since becoming a parent i'm actually really surprised at my new feelings. I've become heaps closer to my mum because she has turned around from being "all-about-her and i-know-everything" to this wonderful person. And i'm kind of grateful for my past experiences because i am really aware of what NOT to become or do with my own family. I know i've become a wiser and richer person because of all the crap....don't know if that makes sense