I'm starting to really understand why i hate my in-laws trying to get close to me. It makes me so very uncomfortable. And i feel like when they help DH and I, they only do it to get something out of it, and would expect never-ending gratitude (like some people in my family). When i know that isn't the case. I know i have trust issues. I'm not used to family being so supportive and helpful, i always think there is a hidden motive.
Wow that is so much like me. I tend to think that DH and his brother's closeness to their mother is some what perverted. I know that is an extreme word, but the whole concept of family members being close and loving is so foreign to me. I to look for the motive behind what my MIL does. I am starting to get over it though. As I have realised that I would like Maggie to have a loving extended family unlike me (between my Nanna and my Mother everyone was alienated).

I have to work hard being tolerant and forgiving of family quirks. DH has explained to his family my background, so they know to be a bit more patient with me and not to be too insulted if I withdraw from them.

My main aim though is to make sure Maggie is never made to feel guilty for her own existence.