From a child's perspective, I had a great-aunt I adored. Mum made time for her, even though it could be stressful. When her mum died, the great-aunt, who has a daughter of her own, was there to help and be the older woman confidante role to my mother, and later me. Best babysitter and later only extended family members at my 18th (with her dh).

She was my first person to call when extended family were difficult. We made each other laugh. I felt blessed to have my great-aunt in my life. She was amazing. No, she wasn't an immediate relation, but we got on so well.

Less close to, but still adore one of my dad's mum's cousins too.

Please don't deny your children someone who loves them, who knows how the relationship will end up?

However, buying baby girl clothes for you is weird. I agree with you there!