I really like this idea. Not sure if she'd be very into it tho, as she really gets her pleasure from feeling like she is giving to her great nephews. I guess I just feel like we (my kids are I) are already so fortunate, that it seems a bit of a waste to be giving them money when there are others who need it so much more. But hey, it's not my money.

I really wish that I could pluck this irritation I feel toward her out of me. I have even prayed about it! I think she just crossed too many lines, and said/did too many things in the early stages of me becoming a mother that now it's just the little things - her phone calls, her presence that rubs me up the wrong way. But I take your points- there are certainly worse family problems one could have than a meddlesome aunt! I guess I will just have to learn to be more respectfully assertive and patient. Or I could move cities.....