I agree.

I have never ever been treated this way ever by my husband. You want to carry that dead horse with you around during your relationship that is up to you. But when you've reached the 15th time of it getting better and you realise it's the same dance you've done 15 times before and realise you wasted YOUR life trying to get someone else to change its a sad day.

I have seen many friends go through this. And every single one says I wish I'd seen it sooner. Because they knew they didn't and couldn't listen to anyone else until they were ready to see it for themselves.

So in the end it matters not what we say. It matters only what you want to hear and see for yourself.

And for the record I do believe people can change. Both me and my husband have done so over the years. But there are some fundamentals that make or break it.