I put off replying to this thread because I really wasn't sure what I wanted to say but im going to give it a go...
Yeah it did "feel" like some were being attacked because they didn't hold the same opinion, which is why i have held back my opinion but once you step back, you realise that most women here are just giving their opinion on their REALITY.
Your reality is going to be different to mine.
You sex life is going to be different to mine.
Is yours better? No, but it's best for you. (in truth, anyone's sex life is probably better than mine at the moment!)
What I choose to do from this thread?
Take each opinion on board, pull it apart, see if ANY of the pieces fit into my life and hope it makes a difference if a difference is needed.
Not every opinion is going to mesh and that's ok - it's not wrong, just our lives are too different.
But maybe, just maybe their will be a piece somewhere that does fit and it helps? I'd really like that.

So thank you to you lovely ladies that took the time to write and put forth your opinion and your reality - you have helped someone very much in need...
Well said - it is exactly what I do with any thread, controvertial or not. I read and decide what points I want to run with/try/ignore etc...

Thanks for all the differing opinions - certainly has given me alot to think about