I don't reckon the urge to reproduce will go away til we are old and menopausal. I would go for anohter bub anytime, but DH is adament that 1 is enough for us, so that is it, i have dealt with that (though it took a while) and have given away all the baby stuff. Giving the baby stuff away helped me to get used to the idea that there wont be any more babies for me, even though i had misty eyes whilst packing things up and giving them away.

For us, i knew DH only wanted 1, but a few months ago i begged him for another bub and eventually he gave in and agreed to ttc, but it doesn't feel right trying for a baby thats not truly wanted, so we stopped trying and agreed our family is complete as it is.

All you can do is sit DH down when the kids are in bed and have a heart to heart with him, let him know exactly how strong your feelings are and how strong his feelings are.

GL, i know that is is a painfuully frustrating not knowing whether to go for it or not