Actually, serious now, DH and I were talking about going for #3 last night (and nooo nothing happened - as per usual ) and we were saying that if we were going to do it - to do it sooner than later. Would I be confident that would be my last? Who knows? Some days I see myself with heaps, some days I see myself with just the two I have.
I think I'm just gonna go with the flow - and see what life deals out - and not think TOO much about it. Cos I think when it comes to having kids and deciding these things - sometimes all the best planning in the world doesn't mean its gonna happen that way.
For it has gone away.. the urge to have more kids that is.. that getting a newborn cuddle doesn't though.. If I see a newborn I just want to cuddle it and smell it.. and when I see a pregnant women I just want to rub her tummy. I was never like that before but now.. im just weird :P
ps I don't go around touching and smelling other peoples babies
Thankfully on the rare occasions one of us wants another, the other doesn't!
I went through all of DS's tiny baby things last night. Can't believe he was so tiny! Getting rid of them today. Only on loan, just in case... but they'll probably not be used again until my sister has a baby LOL.
I love admiring babies. I just don't want another. Well, not living where I do. Sharing a room would not be an issue for me if space were the only issue. Extended Family is by far and away the reason we're stopping at one!
Here I am, pregnant with what will hopefully be my 4th earth baby... yet I keep thinking about #5 (already!)
I am hoping once this bub is here, the feeling will dissipate and I will be more than happy with the 4 that DH & I agreed on.
Sorry that I couldn't give you an answer... just know you're definitely not alone
Personally i don't think the feeling goes away for a long time. maybe once the youngest is a teen and we can do adult things again it does.
for us its not a question of what we want but what we can afford. if we won lotto we would go another timeor two but at some time we had to make a choice and we always knew 3 was affordable for us. any more than that and the babies we already have would have to give things up, and we would struggle too much.
but that urge is still there. DH is having the chop as soon as he is old enough so we know it wont happen.
I find it sad sometimes to think i will never have another baby, but i also find it exciting knowing my babies are growing up.
From conversations I've had with mums who have completed their families, the longing for another baby never entirely goes away, but yes, it does fade over time. I think it's just part of the maternal instinct you know, go forth and multiply?
I guess there comes a point when we listen to our heads and not our hearts and know that the time has come for us - but only you can decide that! For me, this will be our last baby. Physically, mentally and emotionally I am ready to stop. DH is in agreement but his reasons are more financial.
Big help huh?? LOL!
Last edited by Willow; February 19th, 2009 at 06:32 AM.
I cant believe I'm admitting this, but I want more too...
I just wish the feeling would go away... but it is soo strong... Ad was meant to go get the chop, and 2 days after Angel I said no, dont, I'm not finished!!!
Financially we just cant, but the urge is definatly there, and I keep thinking "what if I regret NOT having another one? I certainly wouldn't regret having one!"
But in reality, its just silly to keep having children because I want to, so we wont be having another. There is sooo much to consider, esp the other kids... although they keep asking if we are getting another one!!!
I hope someone comes in and tells us it goes away, or what to do if it doesnt......
But hey, 4 kids is a small family to me, go for it... I love my large familt to pieces!!!!
) and we were saying that if we were going to do it - to do it sooner than later. Would I be confident that would be my last? Who knows? Some days I see myself with heaps, some days I see myself with just the two I have.
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