Does the urge ever fade away?

[Pretty Butterfly]

I cant believe I'm admitting this, but I want more too...

I just wish the feeling would go away... but it is soo strong... Ad was meant to go get the chop, and 2 days after Angel I said no, dont, I'm not finished!!!

Financially we just cant, but the urge is definatly there, and I keep thinking "what if I regret NOT having another one? I certainly wouldn't regret having one!"

But in reality, its just silly to keep having children because I want to, so we wont be having another. There is sooo much to consider, esp the other kids... although they keep asking if we are getting another one!!!

I hope someone comes in and tells us it goes away, or what to do if it doesnt......

But hey, 4 kids is a small family to me, go for it... I love my large familt to pieces!!!!

[Kitt3n]

having another baby has just made me want more, not the other way around!

so is this bad news? the more I have the more i'll want? hee hee

i think thats good news

[sushee]

Actually I do think it goes away after a while. Willow will tell you, I struggled for a long time because I wanted another baby after we had Charlie, and DH didn't.

So I got angry with him, and resented him and for a long time, felt like that longing was something I'd never get over.

But to be honest, I have gotten of it. I didn't realise how much until a couple of nights ago when Charlie was climbing all over DH, and DH asked me if I thought he was lonely, and were we wrong to not try for another child.

Two years ago I would have cried from how happy I was that he was actually thinking about another child.

And yet two nights ago, I went completely silent with shock, and realised how much I actually have accepted that we aren't having any more kids, and I actually don't want to have any more now.

That was a revelation because I never, ever thought I'd see the day where I wouldn't want another child. But there you go. I actually don't.

So it can happen definitely.

[Lulu]

OH yeah, I'm totally fine about not having any more. I LIKE giving them back after a cuddle now, and that newborn smell just reminds me of my babies, it doesn't make me long for another one.

I thought I'd have 5!

[visitor1]

Thanks for all the imput.....its has really helped me alot.

Considering i was up til 330am talking bout this to DH...its good to hear that it is possible to let the feeling slide over time.

[widdly]

Oh Kim it is horible being torn over the issue of whether or not to have more kids. I get so clucky around newborns and I can sit and cuddle them all day and wish they were mine, but when it gets to the end of the day and I have to get my 2 year old into bed, i am thankful there are no other babies in my house.

I know that I dont want any more babies with DS dad, but i can imagine myself being happy to have a couple more in many years time if I meet a lovely guy.....

[widdly]

Oh Kim it is horible being torn over the issue of whether or not to have more kids. I get so clucky around newborns and I can sit and cuddle them all day and wish they were mine, but when it gets to the end of the day and I have to get my 2 year old into bed, i am thankful there are no other babies in my house.

I know that I dont want any more babies with DS dad, but i can imagine myself being happy to have a couple more in many years time if I meet a lovely guy.....