Bec,

Sorry I have missed your reply... can you print off this and stick it to the fridge? https://www.bellybelly.com.au/men/not-fair

I would definitely seek support on your own if he wont go. Or perhaps give him an ultimatum to go and make some time. This is an important issue and he should definitely be making time to repair the relationship if it's important to him.

Hang in there hon, I do know how you feel, it's been a tough 4 years for me and I wouldn't wish it upon any mum. But if he can get some help with you, it's so important - if not - you need help and support. Find others to support you, get out to playgroups etc. I know it's not the solution, but as my very good counsellor said to me, 'leaving them just puts you in the same situation with no support. you need to get yourself support even if he's not coming to the party.'

I could recommend some great counsellors to you but you seem out of Melbourne - not sure who is close to you. Good luck xox