A family member has been diagnosed with a brain tumour. He has been given 1-10 years but is declining treatment so will most likely be at the lower end of the range.

This is the first time we have had to deal with anything like this. I am unsure of what we do in regards to the children. They know the uncle, but are not close. He has had many issues over the years and we have carefully picked when they could be around him and when it was unwise to do so. We have now moved close to the IL's and so they have more contact (his behaviour permitting) when he is visiting. His tumour is in the area of the brain responsible for logic and emotional control and hence explains the illogical/paranoid/delusional and over the top reactions to minor things at times. Unfortunately he is only going to get worse - the personality changes and eventually progressing to partial paralysis, vision impairment, seizures and migraines. As he declines I imagine he will end up back at home with the IL's. This is where it is going to get harder because the children spend a lot of time there and we won't be able to hide the fact that either they can't go there or that he is there and very ill.

I don't think we need to do anything atm, but I would feel better with some sort of a plan for when it becomes necessary.

Also, what can we do to support the IL's? They have given so much to help him over the years, even when he has treated them worse than dirt they have never stopped helping him as much as they could and held hope that eventually he could live some sort of normal life. With the diagnoses they are just shattered. They are such good people. Is there anything I can do to help them as they face losing their child?