Tennykins-Just thought i'd also add.. My Ds doesnt listen at preschool either... They have asked me to solve the issue at home but after months of it they realise i have been trying everything possible but its not helping...

The latest is him pulling a nasty face when asked to do something and when he gets in trouble he yells back at us.

We have been having one on one time as he had been getting worse through out the pregnancy and now is worse now our DD has been around. I realise its probably the issue but its not like were not having one on one time... We have snuggles on the lounge. While i'm BF we sit all together, read a book while feeding. We eat lunch together i read to him at bed time. While DD is sleeping we do activity books, play dough, make train tracks... I have done everything i can to make him feel involved as well but his behavious still isnt changing... Its like he gets in moods where his ears arent connected to his brain and he is just plain defiant.

I do the kneeling down to speak to him, we speak calmly and do the whole run down of things. I get him involved with finding the things for shopping or what ever but now he runs off to find the things we normally get... (like milk he'll run straight off to that section grab 2 milks and try to carry them to the trolley just to run off to the next thing. i hate the arm straps but if things dont improve i'll have to resort to using one... My fear is that he'll get lost or worse get lost try to find me and end up in the car park... Have tryed walking away- but he's not scared to be alone at the shops... I'm hoping that its a BAD stage and things will improve soon... for the time being we just have to keep up being consistant with what we choose to let slide and what we dont. If i didnt ignore the little he'd be in trouble all day everyday.... I try to praise him when he's been good (even if its only for a short time)