Number 2... How'd you know that you were ready?

[BekZ]

I don't know a mum who doesn't worry about how she'll cope with a baby and toddler. I found my first baby the biggest adjustment period of my life but at the same time I couldn't wait to be a mum. Then I got pregnant with twins when DD was 4 months old and I lost those babies. After that I knew I got really clucky but I wasn't quite ready. Then DD reached 1yo and I was super clucky, all logical reasoning like me going back to work was put on the back burner because I had the urge. We fell pregnant instantly but we lost that baby too. I was shattered and couldn't imagine DD not having a sibling. Thankfully I fell pregnant with DD2, 2 weeks after we lost our baby at 12 weeks. She stuck and was born when DD1 was 2years old. I was very anxious about handling the 2 little ones and to be honest the first 3 months were hard but we got our groove and I loved having 2. Then I got the urge again when DD2 was 9 months old. We decided that we would ttc and allow for a miscarraige or 2!! Well DD3 stuck and we had 3 under 4!! Now 21 months down the track we are in talks again but it all seems to hard this time. I would love another bub but there are so many factors to consider, despite all the factors I still have the itch!!!

When I had DD1 I was determined to be the "perfect" mum and her every need was always catered for instantly. Whilst pregnant with DD2 I feared not being 100% available for DD1 and I wanted to give DD2 the same attention that DD1 received. I actually struggled with this concept after DD2 arrived, until I learnt to let go a little bit. I begun to realise that DD1 was ready to be a little independant and by making her wait whilst I fed the baby was actually a very good life lesson for her. She also learnt to share and take turns, yet another great life lesson. I often felt bad for DD2 because I didn't play with her as much but she had a sister to play with and teach her things too. The same goes for number 3, I don't play with her or fuss over her like I did DD1 but her life is rich because her siblings play and learn from.

Oh yes I also realised that people don't fuss over you with second and third pregnancies either. I loved being pregnant with DD1 because it was new to my hubby and family. I got a little bit spoilt with foot massages, sleepins and dinner made for me. By the time number 3 came along all that sort of pampering was long gone

I think you know when the time is right. It is all you can think about and things like work, holidays, money just don't seem as important because quite honestly you can get around things like that iykwim. Good luck sweets and I hope to see a pregnancy announcement soon xxoo