Is online flirting ok?

[OceanPrincess]

...I also feel disrespected as there was conversation about our marriage (just the negative aspects of me being away from the family alot due to work) and because of my feelings towards this particular female - I really despise that he spoke to her, of all people about our issues, it's like a slap in the face....her of all effing people! He knew damn well I was 'dark' on her.

I'm ok when I'm distracted. It's when I'm not distracted it cuts like a knife.

It must cut like a knife...

TBH, the part above about talking about your marriage would probably upset me the most. I have always said to DH that if he has a problem with our relationship, please talk to me about it before anyone else. It's when you involve other people that things can get out of control.

It sounds like you handled it quite well - where to from here? How do you feel about the things he discussed about your marriage?

[Tinks]

It's not ok, he has betrayed you. I'm sorry you are going through this.

[Heaven]

First of all, no, I don't even think flirting is ok. But what you described isn't flirting anyway, it's called planning an affair. So yeah, really really not ok. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.

[ladybird11]

I guess I've taken it pretty harshly OceanPrincess. The reason I have a second job is to help afford private school education that DH and I both want for the kids. The second job is quite physical, involves a lot of my 'spare' time rehearsing, practising etc - which obviously takes away from my time with the family. The fact that I have been running myself into the ground almost quite literally, whilst he plays the 'poor me, I'm so alone' card to this female really upsets me.

As I saw the initial PM preview, I've opened it and its quite bizarre. I couldn't read a full sentence as certain key words kept jumping out at me, boobs, speedo's, come for a visit, BRING THE KIDS!!!!! EFF, EFF, EFF! Argh, infuriates me just re-living it!

Where to from here? Well I can tell you - Fathers Day was quite awkward. Bought stuff from the kids etc, but I can tell you I was glad I was working in the morning and he was in the evening. As to what else will happen - I dunno. He has a lot of trust to regain with me now. But it'll be like a broken vase, you can glue it back together but it'll never look quite the same.

I just wanted to make sure I am not being to over the top about this...