Sorry, I did reply yesterday but lost the post :-/

I agree Limeslice, I guess I have to sit down and have a bit of a think about what I need to happen. I honestly feel that it will just be time. As much as as I love presents, the happiness associated with them are usually only temporary.

After this incident came to light he deactivated his FB off his own back and hasn't been on since. I don't mind him being on FB at all now (due to being busy with our schedules we get little time to interact with our real friends, FB is a means to maintain somewhat of a connection, as long as its with the right people!), thus I've told him he needs to de-friend her if he does choose to reactivate FB - but he is pretty dead set that he doesn't want to go near it again.

I don't want passwords and access to his accounts. I will happily ask him and hope he gives an honest reply as a means to help rebuild trust, if I learn of any lies then there is big trouble - possibly irreconcilable IYKWIM.

As for the ladies who've had it much harder than me, I send you my virtual hugs. You must be so strong - I wish I had half your strength!