This is so hard.

Ok since we split I have only heard from him directly once and then it was because he wanted me to do something for him. He didn't even ask how the baby was going and has said "the baby doesn't even count because its not here yet". Its been nearly 2 months. He expects to be involved in the baby's life (which I am all for) but only as a presence, when it suits him and not financially. Even when we were still together he refused to cover any of the cost associated with the baby (ie pram, cot, car seat) let alone medical expenses. Hell he didn't even pay the specialist bills for his son (with someone else), I used to do all of that.

He wants to be at the scan and at the birth. I have told him when the scan is but I will not be reminding him and due to the time and the fact that he never gets up before noon I doubt he will show. There is no way I could have him at the birth, even for the babies sake.