Thanks everyone. I think that having the kids around is a great thing for the ILs, so I guess that would be a huge thing for keeping some normal in their life. They know we are here any time and have already been around for a debrief after they realised it was terminal. On that - the Drs initially gave them false hope by telling them it was the 'good' sort of tumour which they took to mean it could be cured. Turns out good in brain tumour terms is only different from bad in the length of time it takes to kill you.

I hadn't even thought of hospitals. He will hate that . The worst part is that between a head injury when he was 18 and the misdiagnoses years ago of the tumour, he has lived a miserable life. In and out of psych wards the last few years etc, it has been really hard. When he is good he is good, but you are always so cautious with everything said lest it be taken wrong and become a twisted torment for him. His friends gave up on him long ago, he has never worked. He has nothing to lose. He said he just wants to feed the tumour and make it grow faster so he can get on with dying.