10 things breastfeeding advocates should stop saying

[Floweryfields]

There are numerous posts where people have said they see all those things here all the time.

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OK, see I interpreted that to be the site members posting such comments in threads and not you specifically.

[BellyBelly]

We try to make sure people post fairly and along the same lines. I don't see these things here much anymore, but then I can't read everything and we have so many posts it is hard to keep up. I do believe though people here genuinely want to help.

Even if they don't, then we can gently respond, without launching into attack and anger, to help them understand others and where they are coming from. This thread is obviously going to help explain the other side to them. That way there will be kindness and understanding without bitterness and anger, and any divide occurring.

Anyways, all sorted.

[Tinks]

We try to make sure people post fairly and along the same lines. I don't see these things here much anymore, but then I can't read everything and we have so many posts it is hard to keep up. I do believe though people here genuinely want to help.

Even if they don't, then we can gently respond, without launching into attack and anger, to help them understand others and where they are coming from. This thread is obviously going to help explain the other side to them. That way there will be kindness and understanding without bitterness and anger, and any divide occurring.

Anyways, all sorted.

That's exactly why I posted it.

[BellyBelly]

Breastfeeders may not read the formula threads.

[Tinks]

Well, it seems many have and commented.

I've also had feedback and pm's from breastfeeders who liked the article.

[delphmoon]

Well, it would have been easier if one stayed within the topic of the thread instead of pointing out divides...but thats just my opinion and yes...I choose to feel that way.

[meow]

Okay, I wasn't going to get into the nitty gritty because this is the FF forum but it seems this conversation has opened up to BFers too. I think I could be perceived as doing No.1 and I've recently said similar things in other threads. My intention is never, ever to imply the mother herself gave up too easily or to imply that EVERY mother can BF but I do feel that there is such bad support out there that many mothers could have BFed even though they say they couldn't.

I was told I couldn't BF. I was told I had "done all I could" and it was time to switch to formula. But with better support we overcame it. I have found IRL when I've shared the BFing struggles I've had many of my friends who also struggled 9and ended up fulltime FF) have come back later and asked me what I did and what worked. I'm always conscious of saying that these solutions worked for MY situation and they would need to find what works for them but I try to let everyone know that I think they could successfully BF.

I get the impression on this forum though that this approach isn't liked and telling a FF mum she could have BF is wrong... and this thread says so too. So, is this just a personal thing and I've been lucky that my RL friends have been more open to the discussion or do you think I'm really just annoying everyone and I didn't realise?

[diva det]

We try to make sure people post fairly and along the same lines. I don't see these things here much anymore, but then I can't read everything and we have so many posts it is hard to keep up. I do believe though people here genuinely want to help.

Even if they don't, then we can gently respond, without launching into attack and anger, to help them understand others and where they are coming from. This thread is obviously going to help explain the other side to them. That way there will be kindness and understanding without bitterness and anger, and any divide occurring.

Anyways, all sorted.

exactly
i would never have even looked at this thread as I dont use formula, and i was obilivious to the fact that people have a go at mothers who FF rather than b/feed!!! Its no ones business except theirs and although i do have opinions, I ensure that my opinions reflect my choices, no body elses!!!

glad this topic has stayed nice!!!! LOL