Okay, I wasn't going to get into the nitty gritty because this is the FF forum but it seems this conversation has opened up to BFers too. I think I could be perceived as doing No.1 and I've recently said similar things in other threads. My intention is never, ever to imply the mother herself gave up too easily or to imply that EVERY mother can BF but I do feel that there is such bad support out there that many mothers could have BFed even though they say they couldn't.

I was told I couldn't BF. I was told I had "done all I could" and it was time to switch to formula. But with better support we overcame it. I have found IRL when I've shared the BFing struggles I've had many of my friends who also struggled 9and ended up fulltime FF) have come back later and asked me what I did and what worked. I'm always conscious of saying that these solutions worked for MY situation and they would need to find what works for them but I try to let everyone know that I think they could successfully BF.

I get the impression on this forum though that this approach isn't liked and telling a FF mum she could have BF is wrong... and this thread says so too. So, is this just a personal thing and I've been lucky that my RL friends have been more open to the discussion or do you think I'm really just annoying everyone and I didn't realise?