We chose a known donor who we found online on a proper sperm donor site. We had two fave donors picked but the first attempt was done with donor 1, at our house. We flew him from interstate and he stayed at our house, we all got on great so it was very chilled, he was a really cool guy. The 2nd attempt, we flew to Darwin for a week as he couldn't get off work. Both attempts were artificial insemination and both failed. Darwin was really expensive to fly to all the time so we decided to go with our 2nd fave donor who lived in Melb, much much cheaper to fly to from Adelaide if it was gonna take awhile to conceive!!
Melb donor is really high up in manager position, works almost everyday and very busy schedule, so we flew there and stayed in a hotel. He would come to the hotel, we would leave and let him do his thing then we'd go back in and do our thing! We would always go out for lunch or coffee with him before the deed though. 3rd attempt failed again, I kept stuffing up the timing by like a day!!
4th attempt, I had decided to start checking my cervix that month and it was the best thing I ever did, it really helped in determining ovulation. We also used a speculum when inseminating this time around & we FINALLY got preggers! I had been taking my temp religiously every morning all these months and using the ovulation predictor tests off ebay (pee sticks).
Just be sure to make sure the donor has medical checks/ sperm count check etc before going through with it Good luck!
Hi there my partner and I used a known donor, we did things differently to how people have previously replied, we met up first to discuss our wants and needs regarding the baby contact or no contact etc etc but for the actual deed, it really depends on what sort of relationship you want with the donor and what works for you all. We literally stopped out the front of his house he passed it to my partner and we left we live close to him just remember the quicker you inseminate it the better good luck
I just want to say thank you for all the advice and experiences - and sorry for vanishing so long! It's been a bit of a stressful time - we had two donors vanish on us, one who hadn't discussed it with his wife first and one who just vanished without a word during email contact. And so many enquiries to local donors on a match site who just never even took the time and courtesy to repsond and say "no thanks". I was on the point of heartbroken despair.
We think we've finally found a donor who will stick around, just missed meeting up with him next cycle - he lives in London and it's a bit of a trek, but we'll do anything! Transport and hotels, even in London, is *still* cheaper than the insane cost of Danish sperm. Very scared and nervous, and so afraid this donor will evaporate, too! We keep wondering what on earth we were saying wrong.
Last edited by Lindley; February 11th, 2010 at 02:51 AM.
Don't worry about what you were saying wrong...I'm sure you didn't say anything wrong!
You have to remember that if the person bails before you go through with insemenation - then they've done you a favour by bailing early. Although it's hard and painful, you want to make sure you have a good match between both parties.
It is better to be open and honest and risk saying something that might turn a donor off - than trying to say the right things and ending up with someone whose not on the same page as you.
Goodluck - I'm at the same stage, looking for the right donor. It's a tough one, but maybe the most important step.
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Good luck!
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