Mum and....mum?

[Indadhanu]

Mum and mum here. Jazz just calls mum... she knows exactly who she means and most of the time so do we.
Sometimes she is a little cheek and calls mum, and one of us will answer, and she'll say "No! MUM!" and so the other will answer, and she'll laugh and say "No! MUM!". LMAO!

[kah]

Thanks for the welcomes everyone!
Haha Leasha, Jazz sounds adorable! What a little cutie! Wow, it's interesting to hear so many different versions, I think we'll be Mum and Mum too. My partner just said last night that she thinks she wants to start trying now, so I'm quite excited!!

[sasha]

Ooh, that's exciting that you're starting now! Whoohoo!

Just was going to add that unless you really want it, you don't have to stick with "Mum" - a bit different, but a friend's daughter calls her grandma "Emmy" which was a childhood nickname of the grandma. I thought that was a nice touch (the great-grandmother was still alive when my friend's daughter was born, and she was "Granny"). I'd understand if you both want to be Mum though, it's a bit of a special word

Welcome and best of luck TTC.

[kah]

Oh, Sasha, that's adorable! I do think you're right though - Mum is a special word and we both want to use it. My mum will be called Grandma and my grandma...well, we're not sure yet...lol! She was Nan to me, so that might still be fine

We've given ourselves til January to start, so we can tidy up a few finances and so I can lose a few kilos...lol! Wow, it's so exciting...!

Another question, though. When you have a baby, does the love for your partners change? Do you love them differently...do you love them less? My DP is my entire world...I can't imagine that changing when a baby comes along!

[Beach Mama]

Welcome to BB!! I have a male partner so a bit different, but I find that my 2 kids call me all sorts of different names at different times, I get mum, mama and mummy depending on their mood, so you may find it changes as well for both of you at different times!
My love for my partner increased amazingly seeing him love and care for our kids. Good luck with TTC!! xoxo

[luna moth]

I have worked with quite a few two-mum and co-parenting families. The combos I have heard are:
Mummy and Ma (where Ma is pronounced by the child as if it is a 14 syllable word. SO cute!)
Mummy and Mumma
Mummy and Nickname
First name (birth mum) and Nickname (other mum) and Nickname (dad)
Mummy and Mum-Mum - didn't like this one, as can see the kid getting older and wanting to use "cooler" names for each parent.

[Sally2]

Started off as Mum & Mama here...... then DS decided we were all Mummy, including the daycare ladies, random women friends........now we are Mummy & Mama
He is really clear about who is who & would not accept Mum at all, she had to be Mummy! So, perhaps your little one will decide for themselves what your names will be
good luck & welcome to BB!

[sasha]

Another question, though. When you have a baby, does the love for your partners change? Do you love them differently...do you love them less? My DP is my entire world...I can't imagine that changing when a baby comes along!

It's a funny thing, it's a different kind of love that you have for your children than you have for your partner (sorry, that's kind of stating the obvious, isn't it?) I mean, when S was born, I really fell in love with him and it surprised me. It was a real change for M and I and our relationship, and I think we had to work hard to make time for each other and probably sort out our roles a little. Everyone is different, though... now, I love how he is with them and experience has shown me that he's not that helpful with newborns but he makes up for that with being awesome with the other two now they're older.

[~Lashes~]

I do think you're right though - Mum is a special word and we both want to use it. Another question, though. When you have a baby, does the love for your partners change? Do you love them differently...do you love them less? My DP is my entire world...I can't imagine that changing when a baby comes along!

yep, mum sure is a special word! (even when they get older and use it repeditivly just to annoy!!) i cant see any problems with you both using mum, you will know who is being referd to or shouted out at!
my ds1 currently favours "oi you" but hes a bit of a cheeky at the best of times!
as for dose your love change, i found i had a deeper love for him once kids were added in, and the fact that he helps heaps with the kids just adds to it, even now, 6 years and almost 4 kids on, he dose stuff that makes me realise just how much i do love him and how strong it realy is. (oh god that sounded realy sappy!-shoot me now!) i guess it never realy changed, just kind of intesified!
good luck, i hope everything gose to plan quickly for you!!

[Aligater]

just wanted to pop in and say hi and good luck

[kah]

Wow, it's so interesting how many different varieties of parental roles we all use! Yeah, I think we'll both go with both being mum...no doubt it'll evolve, like you've all said, with time into whatever our kids want to call us!

We had a chat with our lovely donor friend and told him that we were wanting to maybe start trying rather sooner, but his wife wants to have kids to him first, which is perfectly understandable but still...@#$@%#$#@$!!! It's taken me so long to talk DP into doing it sooner and now this! Mrrr Hehe, ah well, good things come to those who wait, they say, haha