Shades, a long term member on here, has just had her little boy as a single, lesbian Mum and he is GORGEOUS! If she has time, hard with a brand new baby I know, she may see this post and reply
All I can say is, do it your way! If this feels like your path, then walk it with pride. I believe that single Mums can be fantastic parents, I hpe that you have lots of family support though, as sometimes you need to be able to hand the baby to someone you trust and just get some sleep, or go for a walk and regain your sanity!
I don't have time to reply to it all right now (meant to be studying *whistles innocently*) but I'll be back and will try to get hold of Shades to come have a look (she's not online much at the moment, with a newborn and all)! I'll reply to a few things later, hopefully tomorrow night
I am Shades hear me roar (I'm feeling quite famous now LOL)
Thanks Leash for pointing me here
Sugar, hi First of all, you're not crazy and you're certainly not alone. If you Google "solo mums choice" the first link is a dedicated Aus forum with some great info.
I chose to 'spend an obscene amount of money' (around $1000 per attempt) to go with an overseas donor through a clinic (most of that cost was buying the sperm), after trying DIY initially with a friend and finding myself relieved when it didn't work, because of the legal tangles... I like how clear-cut things are with an anonymous donor. I have a friend who used the website donor-registry and it worked well for her but I still prefer the anonymity and legal and health security that I have.
The donors get no choice as to where and to who their donation goes, so no competition issues. Waiting lists apply for various reasons for all except imported donors.
YOU HAVE TO HAVE GOOD SUPPORT NETWORKS IN PLACE... I cannot stress this enough. I live with my mum and her support has kept me (mostly) sane throughout.
More questions? Fire away - I check this forum a bit, just don't post much any more.
Hi all! I am new to this as well and have lots of questions. I have been reading through posts on here and have learned quite a lot already. My partner and I of 13 years are going to give this a go. We have an adopted 3 year old son and now I am going to try to have one through a donor because of all the problems that we ran into when my partner was adopting our son. We live where lesbian/gay cannot adopt. It's a long story. Anyway, I'm not sure where this forum takes place but I have noticed mum instead of mom so I'm guessing not the States. lol! I hope you guys take Americans...we have excellent ice tea. I look forward to learning from you all and Sugarbaby I am happy for you and making this decision. You are not crazy whatsoever. There are so many close-minded people out there who "think" they make up the "traditional" "right" rules to families and because they feel they are the majority that their opinions are most valued and correct. If we were all the same, this world would be a very boring place. You give it color and shape. Never allow another person's opinion or comment alter who you are or make you conform. Good luck Sugarbaby. Thanks BB for giving "us" a place to be.
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