Hi all! I am new to this as well and have lots of questions. I have been reading through posts on here and have learned quite a lot already. My partner and I of 13 years are going to give this a go. We have an adopted 3 year old son and now I am going to try to have one through a donor because of all the problems that we ran into when my partner was adopting our son. We live where lesbian/gay cannot adopt. It's a long story. Anyway, I'm not sure where this forum takes place but I have noticed mum instead of mom so I'm guessing not the States. lol! I hope you guys take Americans...we have excellent ice tea. I look forward to learning from you all and Sugarbaby I am happy for you and making this decision. You are not crazy whatsoever. There are so many close-minded people out there who "think" they make up the "traditional" "right" rules to families and because they feel they are the majority that their opinions are most valued and correct. If we were all the same, this world would be a very boring place. You give it color and shape. Never allow another person's opinion or comment alter who you are or make you conform. Good luck Sugarbaby. Thanks BB for giving "us" a place to be.