I am Shades hear me roar (I'm feeling quite famous now LOL)

Thanks Leash for pointing me here

Sugar, hi First of all, you're not crazy and you're certainly not alone. If you Google "solo mums choice" the first link is a dedicated Aus forum with some great info.

I chose to 'spend an obscene amount of money' (around $1000 per attempt) to go with an overseas donor through a clinic (most of that cost was buying the sperm), after trying DIY initially with a friend and finding myself relieved when it didn't work, because of the legal tangles... I like how clear-cut things are with an anonymous donor. I have a friend who used the website donor-registry and it worked well for her but I still prefer the anonymity and legal and health security that I have.
The donors get no choice as to where and to who their donation goes, so no competition issues. Waiting lists apply for various reasons for all except imported donors.

YOU HAVE TO HAVE GOOD SUPPORT NETWORKS IN PLACE... I cannot stress this enough. I live with my mum and her support has kept me (mostly) sane throughout.

More questions? Fire away - I check this forum a bit, just don't post much any more.