I've always placed brains above brawn/braun however you spell it LOL I'm with Niass, vanity in either gender is a turn-off. Healthiness is attractive. Any guy with any sign of obvious bad health (greasy skin/bad teeth etc) would be unattractive to me. This is based on our species survival instincts: we want to breed with people who are going to produce healthy children. Muscle men to me are not necessarily healthy. To me they are likely to be full of steroids and they apparently have very fragile immune systems. I recently learnt that in an artificial milk thread! Body builders often take cow's colostrum to help build up their weak immune systems... you learn something every day in here!

I've always had a soft spot for bookish/nerdish guys too LOL as they are always far more interesting than what Americans call "Jocks". My man sounds a bit like you in appearance rols. However he has never been over weight. He would benefit from a few extra kilos maybe but I think he is currently at the right weight for his size. I have to admit that I've never found chubby guys attractive but once again, if a chubby guy had a beautiful mind then I would grow to find him attractive.

I'm raising my DD to be highly sceptical of everything she sees/reads in the media. She is very good at spotting avertising in non-obvious forms eg product placements in movies so i think that when she starts thinking about boys she will know to look beyond appearances.

Great thread.