yes we should 'worry' about our own children, but there's no harm in caring about what happens to to other children too. I've vowed never to 'teach' DD with intimidation, fear or violence. It only teaches her to fear a reaction, and not do the behaviour or action because she doesn't want to get in trouble, not because she knows it isn't right. I was smacked as a child, at times it was much worse than smacking...and all I used to think was "why doesn't mum love me?". Violence begets violence.