Disillusioned by it all.

[Kazzo]

I hear what you ladies are saying, but I wont ever give understanding when I hear someone use smacking as a threat or warning. I have kids and they get naughty and do things that they should not and get close to doing dangerous things but I have never had to use a smack threat or warning to show them or stop them. I have once sort of hit DD1 hand but it was more of a grab but in a hard way when she reached for something hot. I still think of that and how bad I felt.

To me hitting is violence, it is a form of violence, whether it is a tap or it is a full on blows it is still violence. I know there are kids that have it so bad and I ache at the thought but that does not mean that a child getting a smack or even threatened is more exceptable to me. Like I said it just makes me cringe.

My main point was that I needed to get my thoughts out and that is why I posted in the Gentle parenting section, so that people that gentle parent can help me. Like with my friend I did not need to have reasons defended to me. I have heard them and read them on here before.

PZ. Thank you. We think the same.

Rouge, Yes, yes yes to your post is the best I can say. It is all just YES to me. I sat here nodding my silly head the whole way through I probably looked like a bobble head.