The effect on mothers who had controlled crying as a baby

[ciara.e]

yeah i don't 'enjoy' hearing a baby cry.. i just don't get upset and flustered by it. It's like saying every person gets anxious when another human being talks to them... crying is a baby's way to communicate. I'm not going to get anxious over completely normal communication.

[Liviam]

yeah i don't 'enjoy' hearing a baby cry.. i just don't get upset and flustered by it. It's like saying every person gets anxious when another human being talks to them... crying is a baby's way to communicate. I'm not going to get anxious over completely normal communication.

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[Willow]

Sorry guys, 'enjoy' was a stupid choice of word.

Don't mind me, not in a good head space today and not being very eloquent!

[Inanna]

Mmmm well I know my mother believed that babies were naughty when they cried & I was left to cry all the time.

I had a completley different philosophy in parenting my own babies.

It is known that a babies cry does a little trip on the mamas - that's what it is for. So that the child can be attended to... I got incredibly anxious when DD14 cried & I held her for most of her first 2 years of life!

I also felt agitated & compelled to attend to my other children when they cried. However I didn't feel anxious.

I reckon it's a fairly normal reaction for Mamas to feel agitated, anxious wanting to respond to their crying baby...

[Willow]

Thank you Inanna, as usual you have said beautifully what I was trying to say.

[Shanti]

I am more inclined to think the way that a mother reacts to her crying baby, depends on how well she knows her baby ie their bond with each other and perhaps the Mothers' personality also..... ?? Just a thought.

[Heaven]

The cry of a baby evokes feelings in most mothers to make them want to respond I would think.

[Winter]

I am more inclined to think the way that a mother reacts to her crying baby, depends on how well she knows her baby ie their bond with each other and perhaps the Mothers' personality also..... ?? Just a thought.

:yeahthat: I agree with Shanti. I think you can definitely pick how someone will react to their crying babies based on their personalities - well from Mothers Group experience I think so.

The only time I ever get anxious is when DD is crying & I can't pick her up ie driving in the car. Heart rate goes up, blood pressure through the roof, anxiety skyrockets. Its the only time I ever want to scream at DH & blame him that we're not already home!! If she's crying & I can hold her, then I find that the crying doesn't worry me.