hey don't worry you will work it out.

I also think the hamock is a great idea. or a smooth rocker movement helps alot.

I have never heard not to give a dummy tho. i booby fed all 3 boys and all 3 had no issues with feeding. but i would def be taking bub off your boob as soon as her sucking stops, Sebi one of my twins would always sleep while feeding when he was a NB so he would scream and want to be held all day cause he could smell me. so i was told to make sure when he was on the boob that he did actually drink and not use me as a dummy. i think it helped.

I also agree with music clasical it plays in the kids rooms 24/7.

also maybe instead of rocking you could lay her down where you want her to sleep, face her away from you and pat stroke get close to her so she feels you but your not holding her, and every day move away slowly. when she cries do it again. i did this for ds1 as i found for him control cry didn't work. i have also done it from birth with the twins and they seem to self settle most nights so i think it works.

good luck mate.