thank you SO much for the great advice, i guess just hearing kind words and knowing most mums go through the same things makes all the difference. gave her a dummy this morning and she spat it on the floor,so that solved that! i got given a jazsling the other day so i think ill start using that too... as for the bassinet issue... i think ive given in completely and have accepted co-sleeping, she's so darn cuddly! being able to feed her and not have to get up makes a big diffference as well with the lack of sleep issue. Thanks again to everyone who answered my cry for help