Hi Jords hun. First of all, a huge congratulations on the birth of your DD! You sound like a fantastic mother already!

My DD never slept! Ever! She was a perpetual cat napper from day 1 (sleeping only 30 mins - an hour at most for each nap) and we could never put her down. Not to fall asleep, not once she was alseep. Any time we tried to put her down asleep she would just wake up.

So trust me, I fully understand the frustration you are feeling right now. And please don't beat yourself up over it.

My DD never had a dummy, but she also fell asleep at the breast. Because I was ok with co-sleeping (me and her in a queen size bed, hubby in the main bed), I would put her down to sleep in that to start the night. I would lie down and let her feed to sleep (chest to chest), and when she was asleep her 'grip' on my nipple would slacken and I could just remove my boob from her mouth. The it was tip-toe central to get out of the room quietly.

This worked really well as there was no moving of her once she was asleep.

One thing you might want to look into, and it saved my life during the day, is a sling of some sort. I can't recommend the hug-a-bub enough. It was the absolute best!! It made DD feel very safe and secure, kept her nice and tight against me, and allowed me to get on with my day while she was happy. I'd hang up washing, do the dishes, vacuum the floor, (sit on the computer lol) - all with her in the hug-a-bug. She fell asleep on her own in there, or if she was awake, she was still being held so was happy.

She actually slept 10 times better in the hug-a-bub than anywhere else. She'd sleep 2 - 4 hours in that!

One thing you can try, which I did for quite a while, is taking the top you are currently wearing off when you put her to bed. Lie the top on the mattress, place DD on your top. Make sure it's stretched and and preferably tucked around the sides so it can't scrunch up around her. This gives her the smell of you and might help her stay settled. A used (milk smelling) breastpad also works.

Another option might be a swing? The rocking motion helps put bubs and keep bubs asleep. That said, my DD wasn't into the swing at all...

If you ever need to chat, we're all here. One thing I learned when I was going through the exact same stages (and I won't scare you with how long my DD didn't sleep for was LOL), is that there are a lot of people who have or are going through the same thing on here. Hang in there, it does get easier, and you are doing a fantastic job!