Thanks for the post Jodie - had a quick chat to one of her carers at childcare about this and she thought it was pushing boundaries as well. Tough to handle though as I have little patience these days and DH, well he has none, so yells back to quickly.

Doing my best not to cave in to the drama, but it is making bedtime absolutely awful. She is not the best as going to sleep normally, but now it is horrendous. If I give a little, she tries to take more. Just letting her pick one book leads to a night of drama as she wants more and more, but if I don't let her pick a book it also is a night of drama, as she wont listen to what I am reading I think I am going to have to remove all books from the bedroom except the ones that are ok for sleeping. DH thinks he knows how to handle her, but she is so scared of him now, also he only spends 5 minutes reading to her before I am called in Once he can get her to sleep with no drama and no help from me, then I think he is qualified to give me advice.