Are you sure you aren't talking about my son Jacob?? he is an August 05 baby...

We have reasonably good days but some days are so horrendous. We are trying another approach as ignoring and trying to calm him weren't working. So now we say Come here matey give us a huggl and for some reason that works.. When in the car and he is having a tantrum I huggle his foot..

Some days this doesn't work and when it doesn't I just calmly say.. Jacob go and lay on your bed till you calm down.. Most of the time he just rins screaming to his room yelling NO but then 5 minutes later he is back all calm and the moment was forgotten..

I was losing my patience with it all then I gave myself a jab and said Nic he is not even 3 even he doesn't know why he is angry/sad ect...

So we don't bother trying to distract or calm.. We just ask for a huggle.. and when that doesn't work we go on with our day and ask at regular intervals for huggles and eventually he calms down..

Another thing we have been doing is giving Jacob a little more independence... Such as. He has a step so he can get his own drink from the fridge or sink if he wants.. He also has one in the bathroom for washing hands cus heaven forbid you turn on the tap that causes world war 3 So basically unless he asks for help we don't do it. We always offer and say Jacob can we help you with that..

hope some of that helps.. Just doing those few small things helped keep us sane. oh and we are only human we have super bad days where we don't stay calm.. but 6 out of 7 days we do