I think I must be the only person who didn't think she was having a go at mums and dads entirely. I actually read it as having a go at society that breeds the notion that you put a baby down and they go to sleep. That because of people like TH people think that there are baby whisperers out there that can turn babies into machines that eat and sleep on your demand. Whereas the reality is I see Pinky as the mummy and daddy whisperer who helps you to see that what bubs is going through is normal. And instead of teaching your baby to listen to you, for you to listen to your baby. This does not mean when you aren't coping that she doesn't give a crap. But you need the basics for when you are.
No one piece of advice is going to be perfect for everyone. But I do think if people were able to accept that babies don't need to be trained it would make the tough times easier. I for one thought babies needed to be trained with my first. I had severe PND and didn't cope very well because every time bubs didn't respond the way I thought they should I had failed. DS was a lot more difficult with sleep etc yet I coped fine even with a smaller child because I didn't feel like a failure. I listened to my baby and held zero expectations of what was meant to be. The other thing is we as a society do not need to be so literal when it comes to raising children. Like with any advice take what speaks to you. Babies aren't broken. They don't need to be fixed. If anything we do for thinking as such.
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