I have to say I'm one of those friends who would be very blunt. There is no sugar coating what is best for the baby. She sounds like all her wants are quite selfish and immature and being a mother is about putting a little person first regardless. She definitely sounds like she could benefit from a person who isn't her friend (and perhaps a bit older, like her mums age) telling her the reality of it.

sent from my watzamajig so may not make sense....