Congrats to your friend PZ! I read this thread originally and everyone had posted what I thought - I use a lot of "this is what I do" in dealing with friends who deal with things differently to me. I have found over time that as much as I want the best for MY child and do my best to be the best parent ever, my friends are in the same boat wanting to do what is best for their kids. If they ask for advice I give it honestly but otherwise I don't really interfere ITMS! xoxo Good luck to your friend, she sounds lucky to have you!!