Stopping co-sleeping, but it 's breaking my heart

[~Saram~]

Got a couple of ideas we have used

mattress on the floor in your room - if/when he wakes you lie on the floor with him then get back up into your bed - once he is comfortable here you gradually move the mattress closer to the door, out the hallway, into his own room - like a travelling caravan (that's what we used to say)

Put a single bed in his room and go and sleep with him. Same concept - once he is settled get up and go back to your bed.

Also how does he fall asleep? If he is used to you laying with him when he falls asleep than you might need to change this as he will be waking expecting you to still be there. We would lie down until DS was almost asleep then move to sit on the floor beside him. Pat, reassure - until DS was comfortable going to sleep with us beside him.

Hope you get some sleep soon :-)

[Rommy'sMummy]

Oh darling I feel for you! We had a little one in hospt a lot and with bad sleeping and I found something that helped us - a t-shirt of mine in bed for him to cuddle. Dont wash it, just wear it to bed and then the next night give it to your bub. Worked well for us when DS was small and worked really well recently when DH went overseas for 3 weeks and left a t-shirt with DS for cuddles at night.

I still lay with DS on his bed most nights and am now getting up just before he is asleep to have him able to get to sleep with just a cuddle so that when this next bub comes he will be ok with me not there for him to fall asleep with.

We were not allowed to let DS cry as he has a heart condition (hence hospt stays) and so had to do very gentle parenting. I feel for you dealing with this and being pregnant at the same time.

Hope it is improving for you. It will get better.

Rachel

[Jahzara]

I was going to suggest one of your tops for your DS to sleep with - so it smells like you. Hopefully he might find some comfort in that.

I have never co slept with my kids but i can imagine it would be heart breaking to stop.

Good luck - i hope you are finding each day a little easier.

Take care
xxoo

[Lolli]

Thanks for your support girls I'm happy to report we're doing fairly well, a week or so in. We've gone from hours of screaming to a quick wakeup, drink of water, tuck in and back to sleep (cuddled into Iggle Piggle). That happens up to six times a night, but, hey, it's a work in progess.

So far, so good