My best friend and I are polar opposites when it comes to our parenting beliefs - her babies are "scheduled" at birth and mine do as they please when they please. We both know it but respect and support each other without judgment or criticism. If you can't do that, then there's something wrong with you. I'd be telling this woman that just because you do something a different way to her doesn't mean either way is right or wrong. If it works for you and your son (and him waking a lot at night doesn't mean its not working) then I'd be telling her to either respect your choices or hold her tongue. I'd also be saying something to the effect that even if your son is still in your bed by the age of 7, at least he will be brought up in an environment that encourages open mindedness and tolerance of other's rights and choices. Good luck. I hate dealing with these types of people and its such a shame that they can spoil your enjoyment of an otherwise supportive group of women.