Life is too short to surround yourself with unsupportive people. There are other ways to find groups and people or children to socialise with. What are you there for? For me playgroup is for Seth, I know a few mum's but its not a time to socialise. I'm polite but we don't discuss parenting, religion or politics I think if someone is being rude, there is a way to assert yourself without being rude yourself, but by not actually saying anything IMO is enabling the "bully". A simple "Ahh well I guess we'll have to agree to disagree, you obviously do whats best for you and your family. Well so do I." And leave it at that. Then if she brings up the topic again, quite quickly and firmly change the topic. And if she keeps it up then simply say "Thank you for your input but I am quite confident and happy with my choices." And if it continues walk away from her or make some excuse to go somewhere else. She'll soon get the hint. I can't stand rude people and I don't have time for them I guess the good in this is that women can be quite b!tchy so at least she's being forward its even worse IMO when a women is condescending in a sneaky or passive agressive away, not only do I find this behaviour pathetic and gutless but also extremely ANNOYING! So I think this situation shouldn't be too hard to manage, just remember that you are in control of your emotional reactions, you can choose not to care what others think. And at the end of the day if you are happy with your choices then it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Be proud of how you are raising your child and don't give it a second's thought. Whats not to say there isn't some envy that she could have had the patience to do what you do? Goodluck