Skeetaboat: I think you are right, on bad days perhaps I need to back off the punishment altogether. The last couple of days DH has been home and I have got to spend some time playing with DD without her brother around. She has been an angle, so problem is a jealousy thing when its just the three of us at home. Can't do much about it at the moment with DS only having 3 catnaps a day which I have to either hold him or in sling and feeding at least every 2 hours sometimes more at the moment. I totally understand why she thinks DS takes up all her time - he does, but it won't be that long till it gets less intense, hopefully we will all survive