Like starfish, I try and explain why. I point out the benefits of doing what I ask. I have on occasion said, 'if you do then you will get' but I try really hard not to use bribes to much, mostly when I am in a hurry, really tired or not feeling good and I just want a quick result. And then like starfish I say 'we all do things we don't like sometimes and I am your mummy and I am doing this for your good.