My son has autism and hasn't been very vocal most of his life, but lately as he's healing he talks more... and he's started to say "No" when he doesn't want something. Previously we didn't really know what was going on most of the time... he didn't want to go in the car, he didn't want to play with the green train but rather the blue train, he didn't want you to leave the room, everything just resulted in major crying, thrashing meltdowns and we just had to continue on the best we could because we never really knew what the problem was anyway.

But now he says "No" I'm not really sure what to do. Today he said "No. You want no car" when we tried to put him in the car to go out. I try and slow down, talk to him, reassure him, listen, acknowledge his feelings... but then I still have to get him in the car because we still have to go where we're going. I feel like I'm being disrespectful and forcing him to do things against his will. Sometimes, like when I have to give him his cod liver oil it feels like an assault because he's saying "No" and I feel SO awful going ahead and doing it (even after trying to give him some time).

What do you do? Do you just "be the parent" and ignore the No's sometimes?