Well, firstly your mum needs to back off I think. And you do what YOU are comfortable with and what YOU want to do babe, she's your daughter. With regards to cosleeping, dp and I ended up being un-intentional co sleepers. Ava has never been a good sleeper through the night and so dp would just get up and bring her to bed with us when she was teethign REALLY bad. And then it became habit. Getting her to go to sleep in her own bed now is chaos. Because she knows all she has to do is wake during the night and start crying and she gets to sleep with mummy and daddy. But that's just OUR situation it doesn't mean that all co sleeping ends up as that kwim?