SJ, I totally agree with you, both sides of our family wanted to do kris kringle, but this year we dont even really want to spend money on that, so I asked around and it turned out that everyone was more than happy not to do presents anyway, so we are just doing pressies for kids from now on. Unfortunately it doesn't seem that your family are as understanding. Sorry this is stressing you out, hope you can still relax for xmas day x