I agree that it is nobody's place to "let" or "not let" anyone of decision making age do anything BUT it is his baby too, yes he is not the one giving birth (gosh if guys gave birth we'd never hear the end of it) but I DO think he has a right to an opinion on how his baby is born. All sorts of things can go wrong, noone is saying dont have a homebirth but I dont think doing it by yourself or with just DH (who is obviously scared) is the way to go, have a natural birth with no drugs but do it with some experienced support, then next baby you'll be experienced so you can be in a better spot to decide if you want to be alone or have help.