Had a big row with DH about this (and other things) last night. Sigh. He really isn't wanting me to homebirth and doesn't understand why I don't want other people around me. He says I have all the choices about this pregnancy apart from this (since when?) so he's putting his foot down and we have to go see the birth centre. I did threaten not to tell him when I went into labour, which he said was "childish". Oh yes, I also got to pick the names... really? So spending hours with him picking a name was pointless? "Fine," I said, "Matthias for a boy and Elspeth for a girl." No, that's childish because DH doesn't like those names... so not my choice then? Also not my choice of pregnancy timing, that was all up to DH without me even knowing! OK, not going to complain about that but still...

Right, so anyway, back to the subject in hand. DH won't let me home birth and he's OK with no hospital, he just doesn't understand I don't want people walking in and out while I'm giving birth! How many people want someone to look at them naked, legs wide open and making weird noises? This is the DH who took 3 months to persuade him to go to the GP because his testicular problem had come back. He also doesn't see why I don't want to share a ward with horrid chavvy mothers who'll nip outside for a ciggy and come back stinking. And he doesn't care what a nurse thinks about the baby, it will be special to us.

He also doesn't want to attend any classes - he doesn't want to know anything about pregnancy or birth because he's "not ready to be a Dad". I'm so mad about that! He also "never said he doesn't want the baby", but with all the negative attitude from him that's all I heard! Yes, he did know I was mad at him, btw! Then he wonders why I told him to stop groping me when we went to bed... while I did calm down, I really aren't ready to let him off that easily.

I think I will talk to my sister if we end up moving to Yorks, she'll be a lot better birth partner than my DH and at least has some idea about pregnancy and birth!