DH nearly had a fit when I told him classes start in December - these are the flipping FREE ones! As for support, my mother is not going to be there, my sister lives with her (250-300 miles away), my MiL has already said she doesn't want to be there (I didn't ask her, we were talking about the "have fifty thousand people in the birthing room" phenomenon that neither of us liked!). I would rather go it alone, because DH is so useless: he has said he will listen to the midwife/doctor over me for my treatment. He's going to be banned, I just need to think of a nice way to do that.

My plan of "staying at home and not telling anyone" may well work - DH doesn't want to do classes and is proud of his lack of knowledge, the midwife I saw a couple of days ago didn't see anything wrong with a home-birth and we laughed at DH's reasons against - "It may annoy the neighbours with all the noise and I don't want to clear up after it."

I actually want to do this alone, without any "support people"... I just don't want to be told off for saying something hurtful to them when I was pushing the baby out! (Another VERY good reason for not having my mother anywhere near me for the next fifty years, BTW.)