Homebirth General Discussion #1

[Lolli]

**pokes head in** do I count? I'm technically a home birther now even though it wasn't planned that way...

I wanted to tell someone anyhow- I get it now. The idea of hb always appealed to me but I found it scary. Now I understand why everyone raves about it. It was so much nicer, for all concernced, to have dd at home. My only regret is we had to transfer to the hospital afterwards.

If I ever have another one, there is no way I would go to the hospital. I would find dome way to birth at home. I just wish there was some way I could describe exactly how it feels to all the hb sceptics out there

Maya, you sound all ready to go hun You've got to be excited. Abd I bet your ds can't wait. Just for curiousity, are you worried about him seeing you in pain? (if you are in pain, I think I recall your ds's birth was pain free)

[Smoke Jaguar]

Lori, you ARE a homebirther now, huh?? I'm so, so glad you got to experience it and the whole 'oh, puhlease, I so don't believe I'll be safer in hospital' to your DH Please don't regret the transfer - it happens from time to time in planned homebirths (Tracy Bartram had to transfer after hers!), doesn't make it less of a homebirth
I never worried about DS seeing me birth. His birth was not a loud, vocalised affair (just the way it worked out, and the way I visualised it was for serenity, I do know vocalisation is an important part of it for others!) - I worked through all the sensations using the HypnoBirthing. I guess I'm assuming it will be the same this time round! If it's not, I'm not worried, still - the midwives and DP will talk him through it and I'll give him tranced-out snuggles to let him know I'm ok. The environment will be too nurturing for him to think I'm in danger, so he might just be confused if things get vocal, but hopefully not alarmed.
Yeah, it's not so weird and foreign to plan a homebirth...even 'normal' people do it Not that I'm one of them...

[Lolli]

Bimboo, thanks for sharing your story. Here's to hoping you get a much better birth this time round

And Maya, I saw your piccies on FB- absolutley beautiful hun, you should be very proud

[Tegam]

wow bimboo....if you need any extra support anytime just PM me. If it feels right to you then its right for your family!

[Smoke Jaguar]

Oh, Bimboo I hope the HB network up where you are can get you in contact with a great middie!
I can relate to not enjoying pregnancy and feeling like the pregnancy grinch - so many people bang on about how wonderful it is to be pregnant...last thing I want to hear when my pelvis is screaming at me and I have to prematurely stop normal activity that keeps me sane (horse-riding!) etc. In a big way, I think being so hellbent on a peaceful, water and home-setting birth is my way of reclaiming my pregnancy experience for feeling ripped off during the pregnancy. Apart from always feeling that my births would not be the medicalised, traumatic version of birth peddled by contemporary society.
Hey, if you want it and set the wheels in motion to get it, you're so much more likely to achieve it than if you don't dream it at all Good luck, babe xxx

[Tegam]

went to an OB/Gyno yesterday for a routine pap and boy did i get a lecture on homebirth. (went to an Gyno as i had a few medical questions i wanted to ask him rather than a clueless GP).

The lecture went for 10mins, and he used the statement 4 times "Well you got away with it once".... Then said if i was to have another baby i could negotiated from 35/36weeks when (not if) he would induce me..... using figures like 3-5% chance on Csec and 10% Special Care nursery...."but risk SO much safer than homebirth"....

He even said it again in the waiting room in front of everyone else! DH (who was in the waiting room) and i were ****ed off but just not surpriseded.

Like i would ever risk setting into a place like that when/if i got pregnant again! The private hospital that the Drs rooms are attached to have a 70% Csec rate!

[Smoke Jaguar]

Oh, man! I had this happen to me, too - go to a doc (in my case it was a GP) for something unrelated, they notice I'm pg and ask about my plans, then spout all their RANZCOG crap about risk and safety and 'life and death in a matter of minutes'...then it's too late an hour later when I want to go back and tell them that with skilled midwives it's so very rarely a matter of minutes for life and death to be determined because they know NORMAL birth and pick up on problems far sooner than medicos who only really see the tail end of birth...and usually medicalised birth, anyway! How frustrating for you - it's not easy to put it out of your head when you've been assaulted with that kind of negativity.
Like I say to people who tell me I was 'brave' - I'd be braver to take my chances in hospital!

[~kaos~]

HI all, it's been a while.

Has everyone heard about the new amendments to the bill? The ones that say that MW's must collaborate with GP/OB? And considering RANZCOG don't support homebirth (they have a formal statement that says so), that's really gonna work out well

Anyway, there are rallies in Brisbane (outside Rudd's office) and Melbourne (not sure, I'm in Brisbane ) on Monday, so if you want to share your disgust, please come along. It's very important!

If you want more details about the rallies let me know, I'll post them. They may already be a thread about them...